2 TROUBLE AND LOVE: WHEN A WOMAN GOES COLD

I could forgive you, even your cruelty, if it were not for your calm.”
― G.K. Chesterton, The Man Who Was Thursday

“You overrate my capacity of love. I don’t possess half the warmth of nature you believe me to have. An unprotected childhood in a cold world has beaten gentleness out of me.”
― Thomas Hardy, Far from the Madding Crowd

I said to her, “Even though you knew you were getting a divorce, that it was over, wasnʼt there love left in your heart for him?” She said, “No. None at all.” I said, “ After 25 years of marriage? Two and a half decades of sharing a bed, a home, a life, two children? There was no love in your heart for him at all?” She said, “None. I was done with him. I felt nothing. It was over. That is all.”

Seems as though women have a switch in their hearts, and when it switches off, thereʼs nothing that can be done. What was once warm becomes cold, what was once tender become callous. The switch does not time travel backwards or forwards and cannot be undone. Time has no effect on it. The enormity of the change in temperature is bewildering at first, hard to believe. After initial confusion, amazement bubbles up. Awe. Then the inevitable despair, sorrow and surrender to the new reality. Where once was love: spiders and dust. Where once was connection: ice and chill. This is what happens When a Woman Goes Cold.

This song is a co-write with Gretchen Peters.

Lead Vocal, Acoustic Guitar – Mary Gauthier
Electric Guitar – Guthrie Trapp
Upright Bass – Viktor Krauss
Drums – Lynn Williams
Hammond – Jimmy Wallace

Produced by Mary Gauthier and Patrick Granado
©2014 Mary Gauthier/In the Black Records

 

LYRICS: WHEN A WOMAN GOES COLD

She didn’t get mad, she didn’t even cry
She lit a cigarette and said goodbye
I must a’ missed a sign, I missed a turn somewhere
I looked in her eyes, I saw a stranger there

It’s the way she’s made it’s a natural fact
Once she’s really gone, she can’t come back
Ain’t no wedding dress ain’t no band of gold
Gonna keep her there, when a woman goes cold

You’re no longer her concern
Scorched earth cannot burn
It’s out of your control when a woman goes cold
She won’t give an inch she won’t be convinced
Ain’t no mercy in her soul when a woman goes cold

I wish she’d scream and shout, I wish she’d slam a door
I wish she’d curse my name like she’s done before
But she looks through me like I’m not there
And I’m dying here, and she just don’t care

You’re no longer her concern
Scorched earth cannot burn
It’s out of your control when a woman goes cold
She won’t give an inch she won’t be convinced
Ain’t no mercy in her soul when a woman goes cold
When a woman goes cold, when a woman goes cold
When a woman goes cold when a woman goes cold

©2013 Mary Gauthier/Gretchen Peters

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0 TROUBLE AND LOVE: FALSE FROM TRUE

 

My mama used to say “Your father has me so confused that I don’t know my ass from my elbow.” When I was a kid, I didn’t know what she was trying to tell me. Today, it makes perfect sense.

Intense emotion piled on top of intense emotion over time… leads to utter confusion. My parent’s marriage was a roller coaster ride that ended in divorce after 20 turbulent years, and the turmoil involved in its slow demise ended up leaving us all discombobulated. Clarity came, but it took years.The battles of human love going bad — the fog of war– layers of shifting emotional sands, leave the mind in disarray. We end up upside down, spinning round, reaching for what was just there and is now nowhere to be found.What’s real now? What’s not? Who am I? Who are you? What were we? What are we now? In the thick of it, these are unanswerable questions. ‘Till the roller coaster stops and till the dust clears, you just can’t tell False From True.

This song is a co-write with my good friend, Beth Nielsen Chapman.

Lead Vocal, Acoustic Guitar – Mary Gauthier
Acoustic Guitar, Electric Guitar – Guthrie Trapp
Upright Bass – Viktor Krauss
Drums – Lynn Williams
Piano, Hammond – Jimmy Wallace
Background Vocals – Beth Nielsen Chapman

Produced by Mary Gauthier and Patrick Granado
©2014 Mary Gauthier/In the Black Records

 

LYRICS: FALSE FROM TRUE

Jagged edges broken parts
Where you end and where I start
Got so tangled up in you
I can’t tell false from true
You woke up inside a cage
I woke up consumed with rage
A million miles from our first kiss
How does love turn into this?

A stranger showed up in your eyes
Hard as steel, cold as ice
I tried and tried but I could not break through
There’s two of you and one don’t feel
And I don’t know which one is real
Loving you has left me black and blue
I can’t tell false from true

Where’d you go where are you now?
Can you feel my heart somehow?
Still so full of love you
But it can’t tell false from true

A stranger showed up in your eyes
Hard as steel, cold as ice
I tried and tried but I could not break through
There’s two of you and one don’t feel
And I don’t know which one is real
Loving you has left me black and blue
I can’t tell false from true
I can’t tell false from true

©2013 Mary Gauthier/Beth Nielsen Chapman

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1 TROUBLE AND LOVE: TROUBLE AND LOVE

Some things go together naturally. There is inevitability in their coupling. Things like beans and rice, peanut butter and jelly, salt and pepper, wine and cheese, bread and butter. Cake and icing, syrup and pancakes, peaches and cream, sugar and spice. Bacon and eggs, spaghetti and meatballs, salt and pepper, fish and chips, corned beef and cabbage, macaroni and cheese. Chips and salsa, cereal and milk. Thunder and lightening, fire and rain. Ebony and ivory, fork and knife, nuts and bolts. Lock and key, brush and comb, silver and gold. Spring and rain. Rock and roll, fire and brimstone. Moon and stars. And for all the obvious reasons…

Trouble and Love

This song is a co-write with my good pal, Scott Nolan.

Lead Vocal, Acoustic Guitar – Mary Gauthier
Acoustic Guitar, Electric Guitar – Guthrie Trapp
Upright Bass – Viktor Krauss
Drums – Lynn Williams
Piano, Hammond – Jimmy Wallace
Background Vocals – Ashley Cleveland, Darrell Scott and Beth Nielsen Chapman

Produced by Mary Gauthier and Patrick Granado
©2014 Mary Gauthier/In the Black Records


LYRICS: TROUBLE AND LOVE

At the Downtowner, near the Roosevelt Baths
Forty-eight fifty if you pay in cash
Spanish television up through the floor
Desk clerk don’t look up when I walk by anymore

Blizzard outside, blizzard in her heart
Lonely travelers and cheap motel art
Snow is falling on snow that fell on snow
I said hold on baby please don’t let go

Trying to catch my breath, she moved so fast
Rumble strips, red lights, broken glass
Twisted steel, sirens, and blood
Love and trouble, trouble and love

A head full of dreams, a chest full of hurt
Friends say walk on; it’s more trouble than it’s worth
But my will is gone and my head hangs low
It ain’t the leaving, it’s the way you go

Trying to catch my breath, she moved so fast
Rumble strips, red lights, broken glass
Twisted steel, sirens, and blood
Love and trouble, trouble and love
Love and trouble, trouble and love
Love and trouble, trouble and love
Love and trouble, trouble and love

©2013 Mary Gauthier/Scott Nolan

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